Once you’ve got your own set of ben wa balls, you’ll probably be keen to crack on and put them to use! While this is mostly very simple, there are a few things to bear in mind. You might also have a few concerns about how to use them, or situations where you shouldn’t use them.
This guide aims to put all of those fears at rest, and take you step by step through the process of using ben wa balls.
Preparation
The first thing you need to do before using any kind of ben wa balls is to prepare yourself. It might sound silly, but a big part of using almost any kind of sex toy is being relaxed and able to enjoy yourself. By making sure you’ve done all the preparation you need, you’ll be able to truly let go and enjoy using your ben wa balls.
There are only a few things you need to do to prepare before using ben wa balls. First, make sure you’ve cleaned them. This is explained in more detail later in this article.
Next is to get everything you’re going to need while using your balls. It’s a real mood killer to have to get up just to grab some extra lube or a towel, so having everything close to hand is a real help.
What you’ll want handy is entirely up to you. Some people like to have towels in case of any mess, and extra lube in case the balls are hard to get in. Others like to watch porn to help get them in the mood, so having the remote close by is a real help.
On top of this, it’s usually a lot easier to enjoy using ben wa balls if you’re relaxed! How you do this is completely up to you. Some people like scented candles, mood lighting, soft blankets and rugs. Just anything that helps you feel comfortable and relaxed.
Lubrication
The other important thing to do before inserting any ben wa balls is lubrication. While the vagina does produce its own lubrication, sometimes this won’t be enough to get your balls in. When this happens, adding a little bit of lube can make everything a bit easier.
How much lube should you use? Well that’s completely down to personal preference. Some might like their balls to slide right in with no effort at all. Others might like things a little… tighter. Whatever your preference, it might take a few attempts to find the right amount of lube.
You might find that you use too much, and that it becomes extremely difficult to keep the balls inside your body. This is a common problem, and easily rectified. Simply give the balls a little wipe to remove some of the excess lube, and insert them once more. Next time, try applying a little less lube, and you should have no issues.
Inserting Ben Wa Balls
With all the prep out of the way, it’s time to actually put them inside and start using them. This is really quite simple, so there’s nothing to worry about.
Once you’ve got yourself aroused, you should simply be able to slide each of the balls in your set inside, one at a time.
The real challenge comes from keeping them in. It might sound easy to just hold a small ball inside your vagina, but if you’ve never done any major pelvic floor training, it can be quite a challenge!
If you’re an amateur who is just starting out with ben wa balls, it’s usually easiest to insert them in a sitting or lying down position. Then you can get used to what it feels like simply having them inside you before you need to worry about holding them in with your pelvic floor muscles.
Once you’ve used them a few times, inserting your ben wa balls should be pretty easy. You’ll probably be able to pop them in standing up!
How Far In Should You Put Ben Wa Balls?
One of the most common worries we see when people are talking about ben wa balls is that they’ll put them in too far and lose them, or that they’ll become stuck. This couldn’t be further from the truth!
In fact, you don’t even need to worry about how far you insert ben wa balls at all! The vagina, unlike the anus, is a closed environment. Nothing can get through the cervix, so even if it feels like your balls have become buried and are never going to come out again, you shouldn’t panic.
At their deepest, the balls will only go as far as the cervix, and will always be able to come back out again.
How Long Should You Wear Ben Wa Balls?
Generally we don’t advise you wear ben wa balls for extended periods of time. It’s very easy to overwork your pelvic floor muscles, which can be quite painful and in some cases even bad for you.
Ultimately though, we’re all different! Some people might find ten minutes with them in no problem at all, others might struggle to last two. The general rule of thumb is to start small, and only keep them in for a couple of minutes, then gradually work your way up to longer and longer sessions.
Can You Wear Ben Wa Balls in Public?
Yes! Wearing ben wa balls while out and about can make them much more convenient to take advantage of, not to mention it can be great fun!
When wearing your balls in public places, there are a few important things to remember.
You need to be sure that you are completely comfortable holding them inside your body. It’s a little more difficult to keep them in while moving around, so if you’re a bit newer to wearing them they might fall out!
Planning ahead is also recommended, as something unexpected could happen which might mean you need to remove them. We advise that you only wear your ben wa balls to places where a bathroom will be within easy reach.
There are two reasons for this. Firstly, should something happen and you need to take them out, you’ll have somewhere private to go and do this. Secondly, you might find that as time passes, things dry up a little down there. This can be a little uncomfortable so being able to pop them out and apply some more lube is always a good option to have.
To be able to do any of these things, you should always carry some extra lube with you, and a bag or container that you can put your balls in if you want to take them out. Having them just loose in your handbag isn’t very hygienic so a proper place to put them is important.
With those things in mind though, you can wear your balls pretty much anywhere you want to! Most people like to start with simple things like short trips to the store, or a short walk. Before long though, you’ll be able to wear them at work, while driving, or even on a night out!
If this sounds like your kind of thing, there are even some models of ben wa balls which vibrate, and the most advanced can react to the sounds around you. This is most noticeable in a nightclub or other venue playing loud music. The beat can actually stimulate your vagina which can feel pretty amazing!
Ben Wa Balls Falling Out
As the main purpose of ben wa balls is to be held inside your body to strengthen your pelvic floor, there will inevitably be situations where your balls fall out! This is nothing to worry about, and for most people will simply be part of the process of learning which muscles to use when holding the balls inside your body.
Once you’ve got the hang of which muscles to use, and they’ve gotten a bit stronger, you shouldn’t have many issues with ben wa balls falling out. Sometimes though, they’ll always fall out. It doesn’t matter how many times you try, as soon as you stand up they’re just gone!
There can be a number of different reasons for this
Most commonly, using too much lubricant will be the primary reason for your balls coming out. Simply try again with a little less, and see if that helps.
If that doesn’t do the trick, it might be time to try some different balls. Generally larger and lighter balls are easier to keep inside, as there is more surface area for your muscles to grab, and less weight. Try changing to a larger ball and see if that alleviates the problem.
In rare cases, none of these tips will help, and your ben wa balls will just keep on falling out. At this point, the best option is to talk to your doctor and they can give you more detailed guidance. It’s possible that you aren’t using the right muscles (they can be hard to isolate!), or that you have particularly weak muscles. Doctors will be able to advise the best way to proceed.
Removing Ben Wa Balls
Taking out your ben wa balls once you’ve finished using them might sound quite simple, but it can be a little trickier than you imagine.
Ideally, it should be as easy as using a finger or two and gently pulling them out. Sometimes though, you might not be able to quite reach them, or even feel them at all!
Don’t panic though. Anxiety tends to cause muscles to tense up, which will usually push the balls further up rather than closer to the exit.
The best option is always reaching in with a couple of fingers, and trying to make a hook shape and pull them towards freedom.
If that doesn’t work, squatting or placing one leg on a chair or bathtub can help get your body into the right position to get them out.
If you’re still struggling, try gently pushing as if you were trying to have a bowel movement. This should guide them downwards and into a position you can easily grab them from.
You can also try adding a bit of extra lube in and around the vagina to make them slide out a little better.
If none of this works, simply sit and wait! They can’t go anywhere else, so taking five minutes to relax will usually help the balls move into a position where it is easier to grab them.
For those of you who find getting them out to be a particular struggle, there are sets of ben wa balls designed to make this a little easier. They will either have a string which remains outside of the body (just like a tampon), or a silicone piece which is long, thin, and easy to grab. In both cases all you really need to do is gently pull, and your balls will be free once more.
Cleaning Ben Wa Balls
Cleaning your ben wa balls is one of the most important aspects of owning them. You should always clean your balls before and after each and every time you use them.
Even between uses, bacteria and dust from your house can build up on the surface of the balls. When you insert them, this bacteria is transferred inside your body, and can lead to many different kinds of infections.
Similarly, while in your body, the balls will also pick up bacteria. If not cleaned after use, this bacteria is free to multiply and spread as it wishes. While they may be bacteria friendly to a vagina, they might not be so friendly if they get into your food, eyes, nose, or any other part of the body so it’s important to keep them as clean as possible.
The vast majority of ben wa balls can simply be cleaned in warm soapy water. You can use a cloth to wipe down all the parts, and make sure you get into every nook and cranny.
Some types of ball can even be boiled to completely destroy any bacteria on them. Most metal, glass, and some silicone balls can be boiled.
Certain materials may be more delicate, and require slightly different cleaning.
You can also buy specialised sex toy cleaners to make completely sure all bacteria is removed.
An important thing to take note of when cleaning is whether or not your balls vibrate. Those that do, will have motors and electrics inside, so may not be able to be submerged in water. It’s always important to check these kinds of balls over thoroughly to make sure they are completely watertight while you clean them, otherwise they may become damaged and stop working.
If you’re ever unsure about how to clean your balls, check with any instructions that came with them, or if there were none, contact the manufacturer for clarification.
Storing Ben Wa Balls
After taking the effort to clean the balls thoroughly, it’s equally important to store them properly. Simply chucking them on a shelf or in a drawer can leave them exposed to many more bacteria that is free to build up between uses.
There are also some materials which react with each other, so if they are stored together both sets of balls will be deformed and warped.
And of course, storing them somewhere particularly warm or cold is not advised, as this can damage them.
The best way to store ben wa balls is to put each set into an individual airtight bag, then store the bags in a sturdy box. Place the box in a cool, dry place, and you should have no problems.
With all this newfound knowledge, you should be well equipped to make the most out of whichever kind of ben wa balls you’ve decided to buy. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and strengthen that pelvic floor now!